“Your body will do what it is capable of”

I really hate reading this.

Really.  Hate.

On internet forums, parenting/mother-baby websites, when the question posted by any woman about to have a first child her concerns of childbirth.  You will no doubt read at least one post from Madam Earth Mother that ‘it will naturally happen, your body will do what it is capable of’ and ‘I had mine no drugs, no gas, all natural birth, I didn’t even feel the pain!’ and ‘IT WAS MAGICAL’.

Well, Madam Earth Mother, for the rest of us mothers whose body couldn’t do ‘what it was supposed to be capable of’, what of us then?  Are we lesser women than you are?

For those of us who couldn’t naturally birth, are we lesser women than you are?

For those of us who had to be induced, had to use gas or be administered epidural or pethidine, are we lesser women than you are?

There is so much written about the ‘magic’ of (natural) childbirth, that first time moms don’t really get told or read much about that their birth plan or whatever this fantasy instilled upon us could go wrong.  Our once idea of having a drug-free, natural childbirth (well, because it’s the most natural thing is the world right?) is shattered when we end up in the theatre being butchered up.

What do you say to us then?